Office Of Grand Ayatollah Sayyed M.S.Al-Hakeem


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Children
Q [1]  If a woman has conceived a child before marriage and she marries the same man whose child she is bearing, what will be the ruling about the child?
The said child is that of the father by whose sperm he was conceived as well as the mother’s child. The child belongs to both of them but does not inherit the father as he was born illegitimately.
Q [2]  What is the recommended way by the infallible imams (peace be upon them) to name a baby?
Some narrations state that it is recommended to name by the names of the prophets and the names that refer to the servitude of the Lord, like “Abdullah”. Also, we find emphasis in some reports on certain names like Mohammad, Ali, Hassan, Hussein, Jafer, Talib and Hamza, and amongst the female names, Fatima.
Q [3]  What are the religious rules for the parents following the birth of a child?
A number of things are reported to be recommended following the birth of a child, amongst them are the following:

1. Bathing the baby as Ghusl for him. Apparently the intention is required by the one bathing the baby.
2. Covering him with a white cloth and it is disliked to use a yellow one.
3. Reciting the Athan of the prayer in the right ear and the Iqamah in the left ear.
4. Placing water from the Euphrates River and a small amount of the earth of the grave of Imam Hussein (peace be upon him) on the top and the bottom of his mouth. If the said is not available, rain water can be used instead. Also it is recommended to place honey and date on his jaw from the outside.
5. Choosing a good name for him. It was reported that the most truthful names are those which indicate servitude to Almighty Allah, like Abdullah and Abdul-Raheem. And the best names are the names of the prophets (peace be upon them) and their best is Mohammad. It has been reported also to name the baby “Ali”. It is also reported that poverty does not enter a house where its residents are named Mohammad, Ahmad, Ali, Hassan, Hussein, Jafar, Talib or Abdullah, and amongst the females Fatima.
It is also reported that it is recommended to name the baby boy at his birth “Mohammad” for at least seven days, and after that either continue naming him that or change it at that time.

6. Cutting the hair of the baby on the seventh day, donating its weight of gold or silver to the needy.
7. Circumcising the boy on the seventh day.
8. Sacrificing “Aqeeqah” of a sheep, a goat, a cow or a camel. It is better to choose a male animal for the boy and a female animal for the girl.
Q [4]  As a child, my Aqeeqah could not be performed. Can I perform it now?
Yes, you can.
Q [5]  Is there a need to shave the hair of the man’s head when performing the Aqeeqah?
There is no recommendation for the man to shave his head when his Aqeeqah is slaughtered.
Q [6]  Is circumcision mandatory or recommended?
It is recommended to circumcise the baby boy at the age of seven days. It is not recommended to delay that further. When the uncircumcised male reaches the age of puberty, he must get himself circumcised. Circumcision is mandatory for Pilgrimage (Hajj).
Q [7]  If the husband becomes an apostate (murtadd), should the children stay with the Muslim mother?
If the father of the children became apostate, then his guardianship over the children is no longer valid.
Q [8]  Is it permissible for a man to beat his children?
It is not permissible for the father to beat his child, except for the sake of discipline and correction. This must be limited to the need to achieve this goal. It must be applied gradually with reasoning and not to exceed the need for the sake of revenge and retaliation or due to belittling the child because of his weakness. One must be careful not to mix between the welfare of the child and him being nervous and angry and other similar emotions. The narrations of the Imams (peace be upon them) report that it is permissible to beat the child five or six hits, while emphasizing on leniency. One should not exceed this number unnecessarily.
It is not permissible for the father to beat his son or daughter after they reached the religiously recognized age of adulthood. He must limit his means of discipline by advice and suggestion.

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